Wednesday, April 02, 2014

For Those of You Who are Waiting . . .

Ladies, if there is one thing we all have in common it is that we all have the desire to be loved. 
It is in our God-given nature. 
We desire to have that sort of relationship we see in all the movies... the romance we read about in books... the kind of affection we see in our parents' relationship...
We want to experience those "awww-ing" moments for ourselves: to have a gentleman hold the door open for us, to be sent a bouquet of flowers when we are sick, to receive flattering compliments and sentimental love notes, to have someone to hold hands with... and that's just to name a few.
We all have our perfect "love story" planned out. I'm sure you have all imagined the day your Prince Charming will come to sweep you off your feet... The day he proposes... The long-awaited wedding day, in all it's awe and splendor... The day you can finally experience having a family of your own - fulfilling your purpose on this earth as a nurturing wife and mother... 
We've all wanted this at some point or other, and some of us dream about those moments daily. It is a normal desire for women, but often times we let those dreams overtake us. We are dreaming about that future so often that we don't take the time to enjoy today: the days of being a single woman.
Paul emphasizes this subject in 1 Corinthians. He states, "The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband."

Now, this is not saying that you can't please the Lord when you are married. That is a completely different subject. But, it is true that when we are single we have more time to focus on God and not so much on romance. 
We need to take advantage of our single years and make the most of it. We need to focus more on pursuing a relationship with our Heavenly Father more than pursuing a relationship with a man. Yes, it is perfectly fine to have a relationship with a man. But he needs to be the right kind of man. He needs to possess all the godly attributes we learn about in the Bible: that spiritual attractiveness that is sure to bring lasting fulfillment. 
If our minds are constantly focused on finding a man, we will be vulnerable and pick the wrong one. We'll let our naivety overcome our better judgement because we'll feel so wonderful being pursued by a man - whether he is a godly man or not.

I have never dated before, but I am completely okay with that. I don't want to go through relationship after relationship with the wrong guy. I have had several guys interested in me, but they weren't Christians. The attention was wonderful, yes, but there was no godly meaning behind it. It is flattering to have a guy (Christian or not) giving you all his attention, but don't be so naive to let his words win your heart. What kind of man is he if not a godly man? What can he offer you as a husband and as a father to your children? He may be handsome and funny and say all the right words to make you feel like a princess... but how much of that will really matter in a long-term relationship? Does he desire you for your heart, or for your body?

These are all important questions to consider. We need to maintain good judgement when it comes to picking out our future husbands. We need to turn to Scripture and decide whether this man has the qualities we really want in a husband or not. We don't want to be taken advantage of. We want to be pursued by the right man and loved with an unconditional and spiritual love. 
A good quote that I have found states that: "True manhood does not seek to compromise a woman's purity, true manhood stands up to heroically protect it."

And we as women need to be the kind of person we expect in our future husbands. We need to have admirable, holy traits that a man would find attractive in us.

So stay patient, friends. Wait for the right man. Don't go after the first one who catches your attention. Get to know his desires, his goals, and most importantly... what's in his heart... how is his relationship with Christ?

Blessings to you all,

"Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life."

Proverbs 4:23

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